We all want to be happy. Whether we realize it or not, so much of our time and energy is spent chasing joy, seeking experiences, relationships, or achievements that promise to deliver that unmistakable feeling of lightness, warmth, and contentment.
We run toward things that seem to shine with promise and away from what feels heavy or painful. And yet, for all our effort, most people find true, lasting joy to be elusive.
So what’s going on? Why does joy feel like something we can only touch occasionally, never quite hold onto?
Through my journey and work with clients, I’ve discovered a powerful truth:
Joy isn’t something you find outside yourself; it’s something you remember within.
The Inner Shift Sanctuary is where I offer daily support to help you uncover the joy and aliveness of simply being you in this world.
The Chase for External Joy
From a young age, we’re conditioned to believe that joy lives outside of us. We’re told, implicitly and explicitly, that happiness comes from:
Achievements
Relationships
Wealth
Even spiritual success
As a result, many of us become trapped in a cycle of:
Striving
Comparing
Seeking
And rarely arriving
While we may taste moments of happiness, they often feel fleeting. That’s because joy rooted in external circumstances is unstable. As soon as the condition changes, the joy disappears, and the chase begins again.
This constant pursuit leads to:
A sense of powerlessness
Reactivity and anxiety
A never-ending loop of control and disappointment
But what if joy didn’t need to be earned? What if it was already here?
A Deeper Kind of Joy
Within the Inner Shift Sanctuary, I support you in reconnecting to a deeper kind of joy, one not tied to circumstances or emotions.
True joy is not something you create. It’s something you remember.
This joy:
Lives at the core of your being
Begins as a quiet sense of peace
Grows into a spacious, blissful presence
Is always available like the sun behind the clouds
It’s the joy of being:
Being present
Being alive
Being fully yourself
Why Chasing Joy Doesn’t Work
One surprising truth I’ve learned:
The act of chasing joy can push it further away.
When we seek joy as something outside of ourselves, we reinforce the belief that we don’t already have it.
It’s like chasing your own shadow, you run and run but never quite catch it.
In our time together, I help you:
Recognize this pattern
Gently release the need to “try harder.”
Let go of toxic positivity or control-based self-improvement
Surrender to what already is
The Power of Surrender
Many people fear the word surrender. It can sound like:
Giving up
Losing control
Letting go of hope
But in truth, surrender is not resignation, it’s liberation.
When you stop resisting your life and allow yourself to feel fully, something shifts:
You begin to meet life with openness
You connect with the present moment
You realize joy was never missing; it was waiting
The Inner Shift Sanctuary becomes a space to:
Drop the need to fix or improve
Access the vibrant now
Feel inner freedom, no situation can take away
Life Is Not Against You
Another deep insight I often see in clients:
Life isn’t trying to break you. It’s trying to open you.
Even when life feels hard, it’s not an enemy; it’s a mirror, showing you:
What needs attention
Where you’re not aligned
And how to return home to yourself
When you stop fighting life:
You move from resistance to resonance
You stop trying to control the world
You start living from your true vibration
From that place, joy becomes:
Natural
Effortless
Stable
Even simple moments, such as a breath, a smile, or silence, become sacred.
Living the Dream You're Already In
One of the most profound insights that often arises through this work:
You are already living the dream.
It may not look like the fantasy you imagined. But when you begin to live from vibrational truth, you see:
Each moment holds magic
Your life is already full of presence and aliveness
You are not waiting for joy, you are living it
This shift changes everything:
You stop chasing highs
You stop fearing lows
You live grounded in now
An Invitation
If this speaks to something in your heart, remember:
Joy is not reserved for the lucky or the enlightened
It is your birthright
It is already inside you
You don’t have to “get it right” to feel it
Each day, I hold space inside the Inner Shift Sanctuary for you to:
Come back to your joy
Feel your emotions without shame
Realign with your natural wholeness
You are not broken. Life is not a mistake. Joy is not a goal; it’s your natural vibration.
Ready to Come Home to Yourself?
If you're tired of chasing joy and ready to simply be in it, I'm here to walk with you.
🌀 Come as you are.
🌿 The joy you've been looking for has been here all along.
FAQs
1. What is the Inner Shift Sanctuary, and how does it work?
The Inner Shift Sanctuary is a virtual space where you’re invited to reconnect with your natural state of joy and presence. Through daily soul streams and guided support, Dorry Aben holds space for emotional release, clarity, and inner alignment, without pressure or performance.
2. How is this approach different from traditional life coaching or therapy?
Unlike goal-driven coaching or clinical therapy, this work is about being, not fixing. It doesn’t aim to change who you are but to help you remember your wholeness. The process is gentle, intuitive, and centered on vibrational awareness, not diagnosis or strategy.
3. Do I need any spiritual or meditation experience to join?
No experience is needed. The Inner Shift Sanctuary is open to anyone, regardless of where you are on your journey. You just need a willingness to slow down, be present, and meet yourself with honesty and compassion.
4. What kind of results can I expect from joining?
While results vary by person, many experience a deeper sense of peace, emotional clarity, and a return to joy that isn’t tied to external situations. It’s about subtle but powerful shifts in how you relate to yourself and life.
5. How can I get started with the Inner Shift Sanctuary?
You can start by joining the free daily Soul Streams or reaching out via the contact form on the website. Dorry welcomes you exactly as you are, no pressure, no prerequisites, just presence.
For much of my life, I believed harmony meant comfort. I imagined a harmonious life as one where only the people, experiences, and emotions I resonated with would remain, while everything else would gently fall away. The idea was appealing: life edited and refined into a soft echo of only what I liked, what felt “good,” what aligned with my sense of peace.
There was some truth in that belief. Certainly, it's important to choose what nourishes and supports us. But now, from where I stand, I see how incomplete that definition of harmony really was.
Today, I understand harmony not as the absence of contrast or challenge, but as the full inclusion of all that is. True harmony is not curated, it's expansive. It doesn’t exclude what is uncomfortable, unfamiliar, or difficult. Instead, it sees the beauty and intelligence in all things even in the chaos and in the things we once wished away.
This shift in perspective came through a deeper embodiment of my soul.
What I Once Believed About Harmony
There was a time I thought harmony meant:
A life filled only with people who “got” me
Days that flowed smoothly without challenge
Emotions that felt calm and peaceful
Environments that matched my energy
I believed that anything outside this definition was something I had to move away from. I thought real harmony would come when the hard parts of life fell away.
And while there was some truth in that, it’s important to advocate on behalf of things that support us, I now see how narrow that idea was.
A Shift in Perspective
As I grew in awareness, something began to shift.
Instead of chasing comfort, I started to notice something deeper. I realized that harmony isn’t about removing contrast. It’s about seeing the wisdom within it. It’s about saying yes to life, even when it doesn’t feel peaceful on the surface.
From that shift, I began to embody my true self.
From Remembering to Embodying the Soul
Many people have heard the phrase, “You are a soul having a human experience.” For a long time, I believed it in my mind, but I didn’t feel it in my body.
Eventually, something changed. I stopped just remembering my soul, and I began to live from it. It wasn’t about escaping my humanness. It was about letting my soul fully land in every part of me.
What That Looked Like:
I felt more at home in my body
I stayed present with emotions instead of pushing them away
I trusted what life brought me, even when it felt hard
And slowly, I stopped needing to create harmony. I began to recognize it, already here.
The Soul Sees Harmony in Everything
The soul doesn’t categorize or compartmentalize. It doesn’t create separation between “right” and “wrong,” or “good” and “bad.” It simply is, and it recognizes itself in all expressions of life. When we embody this way of being, a profound shift occurs: we begin to feel a quiet resonance with everything.
That resonance is not always pleasant in the way we’re taught to define it. Sometimes it includes grief, uncertainty, anger, or disorientation. But even those emotions, when met from the soul, carry their own sacred music. They, too, belong to the great symphony of life. They, too, hold a kind of harmony, if we can listen.
The need for life to be different fades away. We no longer feel the pressure to fix or control the unfolding. Instead, we meet it. We witness it. We harmonize with it.
And this meeting, this deep “yes” to life as it is, reveals the true nature of peace, not as the absence of conflict, but as the presence of wholeness.
Harmony through the Soul Means:
Feeling resonance even in grief or anger
Trusting the wisdom in uncomfortable moments
Letting go of the need to control how things unfold
True harmony isn’t made. It’s met.
The Beauty of Contrast
This kind of harmony allows space for all of life.
The fear you feel shifts into pure energy when you allow it to move through you
The loss you grieve means that you have fully loved
The tension you face shows you a new expansion is on it’s way
When we stop resisting these parts, something powerful happens. We begin to see the beauty even in what we once wanted to avoid.
That is the beginning of deep peace.
Harmony as Wholeness
Harmony is not the absence of challenge. It is the presence of wholeness. When you welcome every part of your experience, not just the light, but also the shadow, you come into true alignment.
What That Looks Like:
Meeting life with open hands, not clenched fists
Listening to your body’s signals without judgment
Allowing yourself to feel without needing to fix
Harmony becomes less about perfection and more about presence.
A New Way of Living
As I started to live from this place, I saw how deeply healing it is. Not the kind of healing that means “getting better,” but the kind that means “coming home.”
I experience the world differently now. I feel that many people are waking up to this same truth. We are moving toward a world shaped not by fear, but by the essence of our soul.
A Soul-Led World: What It Could Look Like
Imagine a world where:
People feel safe without needing others to change
We connect from depth, not defense
We live from love, not control
This isn’t fantasy. It’s a possibility already unfolding. Every time you choose presence over judgment, softness over resistance, you are creating this world.
Every time you respond to life from the soul, you add harmony to the collective.
What Real Harmony Feels Like
Let’s make this even more practical. What does harmony look like in real life, not just in ideas, but in moments?
Everyday Examples of Harmony:
Feeling triggered by someone but staying curious instead of shutting down
Crying in grief while also feeling the beauty of being alive
Letting your heart stay open in conflict
Not needing everything to make sense to trust life anyway
Not editing your truth to be more “spiritual”
This is what it means to embody harmony. It is messy, human, and incredibly sacred.
The Power of Saying Yes to Life
So many of us have been taught that we must fix, improve, or heal to feel peaceful. But what if peace is not the goal, but the result of presence?
When you stop rejecting what is and start meeting it with love, you become the harmony you’ve been looking for.
Harmony isn’t found after you’ve changed everything. It is discovered when you stop needing to.
Harmony Is Not a Destination
You don’t need to wait for a better version of yourself to feel whole. You don’t have to reach some perfect level of enlightenment or peace. Harmony is not somewhere out there.
It lives inside you, right now.
When you feel the noise of the world, go inward.
When you feel overwhelmed, return to your breath.
When life feels messy, meet it with compassion.
The soul already knows the way.
Final Thoughts: A Gentle Invitation
If you take one thing from this reflection, let it be this:
Harmony is not something you must create. It is something you already are.
You don’t have to reject your pain or hide your emotions to get there. You don’t have to wait until everything is fixed. You can return to this way of being right now.
You can:
Let life be what it is
Feel the resonance beneath the noise
Let your body carry the melody of your soul
Say yes to all of you, without needing to be different
This is what true harmony feels like. And it is already inside you, waiting to be remembered.
Ready to Live from the Soul?
If this message spoke to you, I invite you to go deeper.
✨ Begin noticing where you seek control instead of connection
✨ Practice staying present, especially in discomfort
✨ Reflect on where you can invite more softness into your day
And if you feel called to explore Vibrational Coaching, I would love to support you in living from your soul.
Let’s walk this path together with presence, compassion, and truth.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What does true harmony mean in Vibrational Coaching?
True harmony means embracing all of life, not just the pleasant parts. It’s about being fully present with your emotions, experiences, and challenges, while staying connected to your soul’s deeper wisdom.
2. How is harmony different from peace or comfort?
Harmony isn’t the absence of discomfort. It’s the presence of wholeness. While peace often implies calm, harmony allows space for every emotion, joy, sadness, anger, and love to exist together without resistance. (harmony and peace for me are interchangeable so maybe just write how harmony differs from comfort)
3. Why is contrast important in revealing harmony?
Contrast helps us grow and return to presence. Without challenge, we wouldn't discover our inner strength or expand our perspective. Harmony includes contrast and finds beauty within it.
4. What does it mean to live from the soul?
Living from the soul means seeing life through love, presence, and deep awareness. It’s not about fixing yourself—it’s about remembering who you are beyond the surface and responding to life with compassion.
5. Can anyone experience harmony, even during hard times?
Yes. Harmony isn’t about having a perfect life. It’s about how you meet each moment. Even in pain or confusion, you can stay rooted in your inner peace and feel connected to your soul.
6. How can Vibrational Coaching help me find more harmony?
Vibrational Coaching guides you to reconnect with your energy, release limiting patterns, and deepen your presence. It helps you embody your soul’s truth so you can meet life with clarity, softness, and trust.
Most of us are taught that life is hard. We grow up hearing that pain is normal and that struggle is something we must push through.
So, we brace ourselves, waiting for the next problem, the next fall. But what if life isn’t working against you? What if it’s guiding you through every challenge, every delay, every emotion, back to your true self? What if life isn’t a test to survive, but a journey designed to awaken you?
In this blog, we explore a new way of seeing your experiences—not as setbacks, but as entry points into growth and expansion!
When Life Feels Hard, What If It's Showing You Something?
We all have moments when we ask, "Why is this happening to me?"
Pain, loss, failure, and confusion can feel unfair or cruel. But here’s a powerful reframe:
Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” try asking, “What is life trying to show me?”
Life isn’t punishing you. It’s responding to you. It’s reflecting back what’s ready to be seen, felt, or shifted within you. That’s not bypassing the hard stuff; it’s about meeting it with presence rather than resistance.
Everything Has Meaning, Even the Things That Didn't Work Out
Think back to a time when something didn’t go as planned:
A job you didn’t get
A relationship that ended
A dream that faded
At the time, it probably felt like a failure. But looking back now, did it lead you somewhere better? Life doesn’t waste anything. Every detour and delay carries wisdom.
Sometimes, rejection is simply redirection. Life may be saying, “Not this, not because you’re unworthy, but because there’s something more aligned for you.”
You Don’t Have to Understand Life to Access Freedom
Let’s be honest: life doesn’t always make sense. Some things might become clear later, and others might never fully add up. And that’s okay.
Freedom comes from trusting that every experience, no matter how confusing or difficult, brings some kind of expansion. Life is always evolving, always moving into more.
Trust isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about staying open and allowing life to unfold, even when the “how” isn’t clear yet.
Life Speaks Through Your Inner World
Life doesn’t just communicate through events. It speaks to you from the inside:
A feeling in your gut
A sense of restlessness
A deep desire
Even a wave of exhaustion
Your emotions aren’t wrong. Your longing isn’t random. These inner nudges are messages, guiding you toward what feels loving and helping you release what no longer resonates. Life is helping you align with who you really are. Especially in stillness, you can hear its voice more clearly.
Resistance Isn't the Problem, It's the Pointer
We often try to avoid resistance. But resistance isn’t the enemy, it’s information. When you feel resistant to something, it could be a sign:
You’re going against your truth
You’re holding onto a story that no longer fits.
You’re being called to shift.
Instead of pushing it away, try asking: "What am I resisting inside myself, and can I be with that while making empowered and loving decisions for myself?"
It might be pointing you back to what’s real, to what wants to change, or to what you’re ready to let go of. My Energetic Group Alignment sessions help you move through this resistance, integrate it, and open up an inner power that lets you live in alignment with your heart.
You're Not Broken, You're Remembering
You don’t need to be “healed” to be whole. You already are.
Vibrational Coaching isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you remember the truth of who you are, underneath the pressure, the conditioning, the roles you've played. Sometimes life strips away what isn’t true, so that what is can come forward.
This process isn’t always gentle, but it’s honest and real. Life helps by calling you inward. By guiding you back to your own clarity, your own power, your own peace.
Saying an Inner “Yes” to What Arises
What would happen if you stopped fighting every feeling or thought, and simply allowed it?
Not because it’s easy, but because it allows you to deepen your love for yourself. When we stop trying to fix, control, or label every experience, we create space. And in that space, we often find peace.
You don’t have to attach to every emotion or give every thought a story. You can just be with what arises. Like waves passing through, you remain steady underneath.
You Are More Supported Than You Know
Life isn’t out to get you. It’s been calling you home: to truth, to presence, to love. Even when it feels like things are falling apart… they may actually be falling into place. You are supported in more ways than you can see.
Ready to Let Life Be a Doorway to Liberation?
I don’t believe we’re meant to stay stuck in our stories. I believe we’re meant to move through them and let them lead us into something deeper, more meaningful, and more real than we ever imagined.
That is why I started Inner Sift Sanctuary, a virtual safe haven where I offer Energetic Group Activations and Vibrational Coaching. These services come not from a place of fixing, but from truth and unity. Life isn’t something outside of us; it’s always inviting us into more. More clarity. More connection. More trust in who we really are.
These sessions are designed to help you remember your own power. To feel safe in your body, steady in your path, and free to live from a place of wholeness. Because you were never broken. You were never truly limited.
If you're ready to see life differently and to open to the possibility of living from a place of deep inner freedom, no matter where you've been, I’m here.
🍃 I’ve also walked this road and crossed this path. Let me be your guide, your mirror, and a friend by your side.
FAQs
1. What does it mean that life is helping me?
It means life isn’t against you. Every experience, even the hard ones, helps you grow, wake up, and return to who you truly are. Life reflects what you’re ready to see, feel, or release.
2. Why do hard things keep happening to me?
Hard moments aren’t punishments. They’re invitations. Life uses challenges to guide you toward your truth, help you let go of what no longer fits, and build deeper trust in yourself.
3. What if I don’t understand why something is happening?
You don’t always have to understand life in order to live it. Some things might make sense later, and others won’t. However, you can start to recognize and trust that even when it’s confusing, life is still guiding you toward more clarity, strength, or self-love.
4. How can I listen to what life is showing me?
Slow down and tune in. Life speaks through your emotions, resistance, intuition, and even restlessness. These signs can help you see what’s really going on inside and what’s ready to shift.
5. Is resistance a bad thing?
No. Resistance is not the enemy, it’s a signpost. It shows you where something needs attention, change, or freedom. Instead of pushing it away, get curious about what it’s trying to tell you.
6. How can I start trusting life more?
Begin by softening your reaction to what shows up. Instead of judging your experiences, try allowing them. This creates space for peace and clarity, even in the middle of uncertainty.
