There comes a point in your journey where something shifts. A quiet realization arises, not out of resistance, but from clarity. You begin to understand that not every emotion, every wound, or every harsh word directed at you belongs to you.
Much of the pain we carry doesn’t even originate within us. We inherit it, absorb it, internalize it, often unconsciously, from the people around us. But the truth is: you don’t have to keep carrying it.
Let me begin with these simple lines:
No longer let the pain of another
Enter you and bother
We are not here to be vessels for other people’s unresolved emotions. We are not containers for projections, nor are we meant to be battlegrounds for someone else's inner war. Still, many of us, empaths, sensitives, peacemakers, took that on. We let the outside world seep into our nervous systems until we no longer knew what was ours and what was theirs.
This blog is a reminder. A reclamation. A loving nudge back to center.
Projection Is Not Your Responsibility
Don't allow people to project,
Reject,
You are worthy and deserving of respect.
Many people mistake love for endless availability. They think that being “spiritual” means tolerating everything. But real love doesn’t abandon itself to keep others comfortable.
You can be kind and still say no.
You can be loving and still set boundaries.
You can shine your light and still walk away from darkness.
It is not your responsibility to process everyone else’s pain. Their projections reflect where they are, not who you are. You deserve respect. You deserve clarity. And you have the right to reject what dishonors your heart.
Being Love Isn’t Being Passive
Being loved doesn’t mean letting people brush you,
Flush you,
Downright crush you.
Love has a fierce, protective side. It is not weak or submissive. True love honors the soul—and the soul cannot thrive in an environment where it is constantly disrespected.
If someone dismisses your needs, ignores your feelings, or crushes your spirit, that is not love. You are not here to shrink for someone else’s comfort. To embody love is to embody truth, worth, and courage.
You’ve Allowed More Than You Realize
Hear me,
It’s true,
All the things people do, have been allowed by you.
This may feel uncomfortable, but it is also liberating. Acknowledging the ways we’ve allowed disrespect helps us reclaim power.
Sometimes we stay silent because we’re afraid of conflict.
Sometimes we tolerate mistreatment because we fear being alone.
Sometimes we accept crumbs because we forget we deserve the feast.
But here’s the shift: if you allow it in, you can also say no more. You can choose differently. You can reclaim your voice, your boundaries, and your sovereignty.
Let Go of What Was Never Yours
You falsely took on people’s judgments and hate,
Don’t stay stuck there,
It’s not your fate,
Let it dissipate,
Liberate..
You are not what they couldn’t see.
You are not what they couldn’t hold.
You are not their judgment. You are not their hate.
You were never meant to live your life under the weight of someone else's limitations.
Now is the time to lay it down.
Let it dissipate.
Liberate yourself from the illusion that you are broken or flawed or unworthy.
You were simply absorbing the pain of others, and now, you get to release it.
You Are Worthy. Now and Always.
You are worthy
So please have the courage to allow life to be great.
Yes, you are worthy of safe, loving relationships.
Yes, you are worthy of peace and joy.
Yes, you are worthy of respect and kindness.
Life responds to the standards you set. When you raise your self-regard, the universe rises to meet you. That takes courage, the courage to walk away, the courage to speak truth, and the courage to say: I choose peace now.
Your soul didn’t come here just to suffer. You came to experience intimacy, beauty, and joy. Let yourself receive it.
In Closing: Choose You
You don’t have to keep playing a role in someone else’s story. You don’t have to betray yourself to be loved.
Love begins with how you treat yourself. Say no to what drains you. Say yes to what uplifts you. Remember: you are worthy, not later, not someday, but right now.
I feel deeply passionate about people living lives that reflect the love they truly are—and the beauty they deserve. If you are a sensitive soul who struggles with boundaries or self-worth, please know: you’re not alone.
Join me in my Soul Streams: a free daily space where you’ll be gently reminded of your truth, your strength, and your right to live with clarity and joy.
🌿 You are love.
🌿 You are light.
🌿 You are whole.
It’s time to rise. Reclaim. And live the life you were always meant to live.
FAQs
1. What does it mean to carry the pain of another?
It means taking on emotions, wounds, or projections that don’t belong to you. Often this happens unconsciously, especially for sensitive or empathic people.
2. How can I tell if the emotions I feel are mine or someone else’s?
Pause and notice the source. If the feeling came suddenly after being around someone, it may not be yours. Grounding and self-reflection help bring clarity.
3. Is setting boundaries unloving or selfish?
No. Boundaries protect your well-being and allow healthier relationships to grow. You can love others and still honor your own limits.
4. Why do I allow disrespect or mistreatment?
Many people fear conflict, rejection, or being alone. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward reclaiming your power and voice.
5. Does letting go mean I forgive or accept harmful behavior?
Letting go doesn’t excuse anyone’s actions. It simply means you release what was never yours so you can move forward in peace.
6. How can I start reclaiming my emotional sovereignty today?
Begin by saying no to what drains you and yes to what uplifts you. Practice daily reminders of your worth and create space for relationships that honor your heart.
We often hear the phrase “raise your vibration” in spiritual and wellness spaces. It’s usually said with good intentions, encouragement to think positively, meditate, eat better, or live more consciously. But what if we’ve misunderstood the whole concept?
What if raising your vibration isn’t about reaching for something higher, outside, or beyond?
What if it’s simply about allowing what’s already within you to come forth?
What if the highest vibration – the golden, loving, radiant essence of who you truly are, isn’t something you need to attain, but something you already are?
The Essence Already Exists
Here’s a radical possibility: you don’t need to become more in order to be more.
Your most vibrant self, the one in tune with love, peace, and light, is not something you must build, earn, or chase. It’s already here, waiting beneath:
Layers of conditioning
Self-judgment
Noise from “fixing” yourself
In this way, raising your vibration is not about climbing higher; it’s about revealing what’s been there all along. Like wiping dust off a mirror, you allow your natural frequency to shine again.
Seeing Your Worth
So, how do you let this essence emerge?
It begins with something profoundly simple: seeing your worth.
That means recognizing, on a deep level, that:
You matter just as you are
Your struggles and imperfections don’t cancel your light
Your pain doesn’t disqualify you from love
Your humanity is a doorway, not a flaw
True worth isn’t built, it’s remembered. It shows up in the quiet moments when you dare to believe you’re lovable without changing a thing.
We’ve Been Conditioned to Forget
Most of us weren’t taught this. From childhood, we’ve been conditioned to:
Compare and compete
Strive for approval
Judge ourselves harshly
We were told that to be valued, we must improve or achieve. So the idea that your highest vibration already exists within you feels almost too good to be true.
But maybe it only feels that way because we’ve spent so long doubting our light.
A Bath of Golden Splendor
Imagine for a moment a field of golden energy. A splendor beyond ego or personality. Not reserved for the enlightened few but available to everyone.
This golden vibration of peace and love:
Lives equally within us all
Is not earned or achieved
Doesn’t require perfection
It’s not about striving harder. It’s about allowing yourself to relax into what you already are.
Tenderness Creates Space
So, how do we access it? Through tenderness.
Can you treat your messiness with softness, not shame?
Can you hold your struggles with love, not judgment?
Tenderness clears more space for light than self-criticism ever will. Love, quiet, raw, and unconditional, is the most direct path to revealing your divine frequency.
Allow your light to:
Slip through your thoughts
Flow into your feelings
Shine without control or analysis
Beyond the Body
We often define reality through our body aches, fatigue, appearance, or limitations. But your highest vibration is not physical.
It exists deeper than cells or systems. Even when:
Your body is tired
Your mind feels anxious
Your heart feels heavy
That vibration remains. Unchanged. Waiting for your permission to rise.
Don’t Take My Word for It
I’m not here to convince you; this isn’t about belief. It’s about trying something simpler:
Include all of yourself.
Stop trying to change.
Hold space for laughter and sorrow, confusion and stillness.
When you stop resisting parts of yourself and embrace your wholeness, something profound happens.
A Coexistence, Not a Competition
Your humanity and your divinity aren’t in competition. They’re meant to coexist.
The highest vibration doesn’t demand endless happiness. Instead, it asks for authenticity:
Show up in your tears
Stay present in your fears
Breathe deeply through your doubts
Let love in, even when you feel unworthy
This is vibrational alignment: not perfection, but presence.
What Do You See?
So here’s the real question:
What happens when you stop trying to “raise your vibration” and instead let it naturally rise from within?
What becomes possible when you stop chasing spiritual perfection and start trusting that something sacred already lives inside you?
You are not broken. You are not behind. You are not unworthy.
You are a radiant being of light, here to remember your essence and live it fully through your human experience.
The Inner Shift Sanctuary
If these words stirred something in you… If they reminded you of your light, your essence, or even just the longing to feel more like yourself again, you’re not alone.
This path of remembering who we are beneath the noise, of letting our highest vibration gently surface, is not something we need to walk alone. That’s why I created The Inner Shift Sanctuary, a virtual safe haven where you're invited to come exactly as you are.
You are welcome here. Your softness. Your questions. Your joy. Your confusion. Your whole, vibrant self.
Step into the Sanctuary and feel what it’s like to be held, not by pressure or expectation, but by the quiet knowing that you are already enough.
You don’t have to raise your vibration. You just have to let it rise.
I will meet you there….
🌿 Step into the Sanctuary.
💛 Come as you are.
✨ Let your essence shine.
FAQs
1. What does “raising your vibration” really mean?
It means aligning with your natural state of love, peace, and authenticity. Instead of chasing something outside yourself, you allow your inner essence to surface.
2. Do I need special practices like meditation or rituals to raise my vibration?
Not necessarily. While meditation and wellness habits can help, the deeper shift comes from self-acceptance and tenderness, letting your authentic self emerge.
3. Can I raise my vibration even if I feel anxious or sad?
Yes. Vibrational alignment doesn’t mean avoiding emotions. It’s about allowing joy and sadness, love and struggle, to coexist while staying connected to your essence.
4. Why do people say raising your vibration is difficult?
Because many believe it requires constant positivity or perfection. In truth, it’s less about striving and more about softening, welcoming all parts of yourself with compassion.
5. How does self-tenderness help in raising vibration?
Tenderness creates space for your inner light to shine. Criticism blocks energy, but kindness toward yourself opens the door for peace and authentic joy.
6. What is the Inner Shift Sanctuary mentioned in the blog?
The Inner Shift Sanctuary is a virtual safe haven created by Dorry Aben. It’s a space where you’re invited to reconnect with your highest vibration through presence, acceptance, and support.
In a world that constantly urges you to be better, do more, look different, and fix yourself, choosing to simply be can feel almost rebellious. It can even feel uncomfortable at first. We are taught from childhood to strive, to measure our worth by accomplishments, and to see ourselves as projects in need of improvement.
But what if that was never the truth?
What if you, exactly as you are right now, are not broken?
What if you are not a mistake, not a mess, not a problem to be solved?
And what if the beauty that is you has been here all along, quietly waiting for you to stop striving so you could finally see it?
You Are the Finished Product
The truth is, you are not missing pieces. You are not a half-formed sculpture waiting for a final touch.
You are a complete and miraculous expression of life, showing up in this moment exactly as you were meant to.
This does not mean you will never grow, learn, or change. Growth is natural. Evolution is inevitable. But nothing about you right now is wrong. You are not defective. You are not “less than.”
Your journey is not about becoming someone else. It is about remembering who you have always been. The essence of you, your soul, your spirit, has always been whole.
When You Feel Broken
Still, there will be moments when you feel incomplete. You may feel like something inside you is missing, as though life or God made an error when shaping you.
In those moments, remember:
You are still on your path.
You are not broken.
You are becoming aware.
Awareness comes in its own timing. It is never too soon, never too late. Even feelings of inadequacy are not signs of failure; they are invitations to look deeper into yourself.
In Time, You Will See
Life holds a greater wisdom than the human mind can grasp. You do not need to force your growth or rush your healing. Every step you take, every turn you make, is right on schedule.
Transformation often feels messy. Seeds must break open before they sprout. The night often deepens before the dawn arrives. In the same way, your unfolding may appear chaotic before it reveals its harmony.
And yet, even now, you are already in harmony. You are already in the flow, even if you cannot always feel it.
An Intelligence That Moves You
There is a vast, loving intelligence guiding your life. It is the same force that spins galaxies, stirs oceans, and beats your heart. This force does not make mistakes. It does not overlook details. It does not forget a single piece of who you are.
Even your doubts, your struggles, and your detours have been part of the design. They have been woven into your becoming.
When you release the constant need to fix or improve yourself, you make space for this intelligence to guide you. You begin to sense it, not as a push, but as a gentle pull toward alignment, truth, and trust.
Put Down Your Shield
Many of us go through life wearing armor to prove our worth:
Masks to hide our fears.
Perfectionism to disguise our pain.
Endless self-improvement to avoid vulnerability.
We cling to these shields because we believe they protect us. But real strength comes from putting them down.
The wholeness you have been searching for will not come from doing more. It will come from letting go of the weight of “not enough.”
There is no war to fight. There is no competition to win. There is only beauty to recognize. And that beauty is already inside you.
The Moment You Remember
One day, maybe even today, you will pause long enough to see yourself clearly. You will look past the noise of self-judgment. You will stop measuring yourself against impossible standards. You will quiet the voice that insists you are “not there yet.”
And in that stillness, you will remember something extraordinary:
God never missed a single screw.
You were made whole.
You are a masterpiece in motion.
You Are Beauty Itself
Your beauty is not something you have to earn. It cannot be measured, replicated, or diminished. It does not depend on achievements, appearances, or performance.
You are:
Beauty in breath
Love in form
The mystery made visible
You do not need to become this. You only need to see it. And once you do, it becomes impossible to forget.
The Rhythm of Your Becoming
It is easy to believe that life is something to conquer. That success means arriving at a final destination where everything feels perfect. But the deeper truth is that your becoming is not a race, it is a rhythm.
Every challenge you face, every joy you experience, every lesson you learn, is part of the divine choreography. You have not missed a step. You have not fallen behind. You are exactly where you need to be.
Trusting the Unfolding
The journey to self-acceptance is not about never feeling lost or confused. It is about learning to trust the unfolding, even when you cannot see the whole picture.
Just as the tide knows when to rise and when to recede, just as the moon knows when to hide and when to shine, you are moving with a wisdom far beyond your conscious mind.
This wisdom is not something you have to create. It is already guiding you, always, without fail.
In Closing
The path of awakening is not about becoming someone new. It is about remembering the beauty you have always been. Your pain, your doubt, your longing—they have all been part of your becoming.
So take a breath. Release the urge to fix yourself. Marvel at the truth:
You are the finished product.
You are the unfolding miracle.
You are the beauty that is you.
Let’s commit to the beauty within us instead of holding onto the false notion of brokenness. Providing a space for this unfolding is my great pleasure, and the very reason why I created an online Safe Haven called the Inner Shift Sanctuary.
Come reconnect with the beauty that is your birthright. If this resonates with you, I can't wait to see you there!
FAQs
1. What is soul-centered, human-first awareness coaching?
It’s a coaching approach that focuses on your inner awareness and authentic self, rather than fixing or changing you. The goal is to help you align with your true nature and live from a place of clarity and presence.
2. How are the sessions conducted?
Sessions are held online through meditative practices, virtual group gatherings, or private one-on-one coaching. This makes them accessible from anywhere in the world.
3. Do I need prior experience with meditation or self-work?
No. All sessions are designed for any experience level. You’ll be guided step-by-step so you can participate comfortably.
4. How is this different from therapy?
Therapy often focuses on the past and mental health diagnosis, while awareness coaching centers on the present moment, self-connection, and conscious living without labeling or “fixing.”
5. How soon can I expect results?
Many clients feel a shift in perspective after the first session, though a deeper transformation comes with consistent practice and participation.
6. Can I join a group session if I prefer privacy?
Yes. You can choose between group sessions, which offer shared energy and connection, or private coaching for a more personal, one-on-one experience.
