What If Life Is Helping You A New Way To See Your Journey
- Dorry Aben
- May 31
- 5 min read
Updated: Sep 23
We live in a world where we’re constantly taught to brace ourselves—for disappointment, failure, heartbreak, pain. We're often told to toughen up, to prepare for the worst, to assume life is something we must conquer, survive, or fix. But what if that mindset is precisely what keeps us stuck?
What if life isn’t working against you… but for you or rather what if it appears as you?
What if life itself—every detour, delay, discomfort, and delight—is actually trying to help you?
It’s a radical shift in perspective, but one that holds immense power: Life is not your adversary. Life is your ally. It is without fail reflecting back to you what you have yet to love within yourself.
Life Is Responding to You, Not Punishing You
At some point in our lives, many of us have asked: “Why is this happening to me?” Especially in moments of deep challenge—loss, illness, betrayal, confusion—it’s easy to feel like life is being cruel or unfair.
But what if the question isn’t “Why is this happening to me?” but rather, “What is life trying to show me through this?”
Life is always responding, not punishing. It mirrors back our beliefs, brings to the surface what is ready to be integrated, and rearranges circumstances to move us closer to alignment with our deepest truth. This isn’t spiritual bypassing—this is spiritual responsibility.
When we meet life with openness rather than resistance, we start to see how intricately designed even the hardest moments are.
Nothing Is Random—Everything Is Meaningful
That job that didn’t work out…The relationship that ended unexpectedly…The move that didn’t go as planned…The dream that changed shape…
What if none of it was random?
What if those moments that broke your heart were actually opening your heart to something bigger?
What if the rejections were redirections?
What if life was saying, “Not here, my love—not because you’re not worthy, but because I’m saving you for something more aligned.”
Everything you’ve walked through has shaped you. Every moment has tried to point you back to a deeper truth. Life doesn't waste anything. It weaves it all together for you to step into a bigger potential that you could ever imagine..
The Power of Trusting the Process
The hardest part about embracing the idea that life is here to help us is this: we don’t always understand how. Life doesn’t always make sense in the moment. In fact, it often doesn’t.
But just because you can’t see the purpose in something yet doesn’t mean there isn’t one. And maybe the purpose can be as simple as having the experience of it, being humbled through it. Opening up to compassion, to relatability. I would even go as far as saying that all of it is simply the lens through which we get to love.
But even on a more concrete level, think about all the things in your past that didn’t go the way you planned—but in hindsight, you’re grateful they didn’t. Maybe you grew stronger, wiser, more compassionate. Maybe they led you to something or someone you would’ve never encountered otherwise.
That’s the power of trust.
Trust doesn’t mean you always feel good. It means you’re willing to believe there’s something more awaiting you on the other side of the experience. In the end, no matter how it looks, life is always evolving into more. .
Life Speaks Through Your Inner World
Life doesn’t just communicate through outside events. It also speaks from within—through intuition, emotion, desire, restlessness, and even discomfort.
Your longing isn’t an accident.Your fatigue isn’t random.Your curiosity is sacred.Your emotions are messages, not mistakes.
Life is here to help you by waking you up to yourself—by nudging you toward alignment with your essence. It uses every tool available: people, timing, failure, synchronicity, even stillness. Especially stillness.
When we slow down and listen, we begin to sense that life is not chaotic at all—it’s intelligent, responsive, and deeply supportive.
Resistance Is Not Your Enemy—It's Your Compass
We’re taught to fear resistance. But resistance isn’t the enemy—it’s a compass.
When you find yourself resisting something—maybe a job, a conversation, a way of being—it’s often life showing you that something within you is ready to shift.
Are you forcing something that isn’t aligned?Are you suppressing a truth that wants to come forward?Are you ignoring a calling that feels inconvenient but deeply real?
Life is here to help you recognize that. Resistance is the friction that points to places needing liberation.
Rather than judging your resistance, get curious about it. Ask: What am I being asked to see, feel, or step into?
Life Moves You Toward Your Wholeness
Healing isn’t required for you are whole now. So it is isn't about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been—the whole, wise, radiant being underneath the survival patterns and conditioning.
Life helps you shed those layers. Sometimes gently. Sometimes with the force of a storm.
But always with the intention of bringing you back to yourself.
This is how life helps: not by making everything easy, but by making everything real. By waking you up. By calling you back. By handing you opportunities to meet your own truth.
And yes, sometimes the help doesn’t look like help at first.
But the more we allow life to move through us instead of trying to control it, the more we begin to experience grace in even the hardest places.
An Inner Ok Towards Life
Can I soften into the simplicity of offering an inner “yes” to whatever arises within me?Rather than dissecting each emotion, thought, or sensation—trying to trace its origin or fix its presence—what if I simply allowed it to move?
What if the experience didn’t need to be personal, didn’t need to mean something about who I am?
There is a quiet freedom in letting waves pass without holding on or pushing away. Instead of bracing against discomfort or clinging to clarity, I can just stay open. No story. No struggle.Just a presence that welcomes the rising and falling, like breath, like tides.And in that space, life flows, uninterrupted, and I remain whole through it all.
This shift in perspective doesn’t erase pain, but it creates space. And in that space, peace, insight, and self-compassion can emerge.
You Are Supported More Than You Know
Life is not out to get you. It never has been.
It’s been calling you home. Back to truth. Back to love. Back to trust.
So the next time it feels like everything is falling apart, ask yourself: What if this is falling into place?
Because beneath the noise, the struggle, and the stories, life is here to help you.
And every step of the way, you are deeply, deeply loved.
Ready To Let Life Be A Doorway To Liberation?
I believe that life is not about getting stuck in our stories—but about using them as an entrypoint into something far greater than we could ever imagine.
This is why I started to coach people from a vibration of a deeper truth and a place of unity. Life is not separate from us, it is always inviting us into something more. The Vibrational Coaching sessions show you that your life is a doorway to greater inner power, love, and self-trust. You’ll begin to feel safer and more empowered in yourself… and realize you were never truly limited to begin with.
If you're ready to shift your view on life and dare to open up to the potential of living from a completely liberated place inside yourself, no matter what your journey looks like…
I’ll walk with you. As a guide, a friend, and someone who’s been through this shift too.
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